Advice for coming out...

I'm actually an advocate of staying in the closet. If you've made up your mind, then, yes - open the floodgates. Enjoy the release, the liberation and prepare to have your relations with your friends and especially family changed forever.

But... if you have the slightest doubt. If you think that while you enjoyed a homosexual encounter, you still are attracted to females, then don't let the occasional overly-helpful gay friend push you into a situation you're not willing to venture forth into. I'm not advocating living a closeted life for reasons of fear, more like I'm advocating seriously looking at your relationships and your sexuality.

First, sexuality is rarely black and white. I've talked to a lot of straight folks who said they have had a homosexual encounter, or near homosexual encounter, enjoyed it, but are definitely straight. Forcing people to acknowledge that they're gay is just as harmful as people who say to gay folks "you just haven't met the right woman (or man)." Ease off on the recruiting. Give these guys and gals some time to think things through.

Also... Bill Maher is a favorite comedian of mine. So I'm going to finish each blog with a take on his 'new rules' called... Pre-emptive strikes...

Pre-emptive strike for today...
Before swearing off men and going to women for the sole reason of "All men I date are assholes, I'm swearing them off" - there are plenty of a-holes on the other side of the fence. And the odds of you attracting them are about the same as attracting another asshole guy.